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  • Tuesday, May 23, 2006

    Long-distance relationships

    I've been with my baby for officially one and a half years now and most of our relationship has been a long distance one.

    My baby is from KL and I'm from Penang, so you can understand how the long distance goes considering that I study in London and I'm only back in Penang for a few months in a year.Pic info: My baby and I at a party last New Year

    Not to mention, for those few months that I was back recently, I was either working or inventing "The Hamster" most of the time.Pic info: Yes the hamster mascot ALMOST looked like this until Boss Lepton came in and said
    "That looks more like a cat than a hamster".
    Potong Stim that fella!

    So anyway, you can imagine how everyone often asks me
    "How do you do it? How can you last in a relationship when you see your girlfriend only 3 times a year at most?"

    The truth is... I don't know.

    I remember when my British friend Alex first heard that I had gotten together with a girl back in Malaysia.

    He told me
    "Mate... what the fuk are you doing having a girlfriend in Malaysia when you're all the way here in London? As if your dick can reach that far"
    Yes he was right... as hard as I tried "IT" could only go as far as Thailand :(

    And also there were those times when tempation knocked on my door and Alex kept telling me

    "Mate... GET IN THERE!!! Go shag her.. go now! Don't think about your girlfriend back in Malaysia. Different country don't count!"Pic info: Alex Christou when he's not being a bastard

    Somehow I managed to stay focused (though people tell me I would regret it one day).

    So now that my student life in London would be ending in a couple of weeks and our long-distance relationship will change to a proper domestic relationship...

    I look back and wonder if it was all worth it and the answer is YES.

    I had quite a good long distance relationship. Every night at 12am UK time we would talk on Skype.

    Every once in a while I would be surprised by letters written by my baby that flew all the way from KL.

    Let me tell you a secret about the content of these letters.
    My baby is chinese-educated whereas I come from a "banana school". Though I did take years of chinese tuition growing up... it was all useless because I could barely speak a word of mandarin... until I met my baby.

    Knowing that she expresses herself best in chinese I learned to speak again with the help of my baby. Today we both converse in mandarin all the time which helps when I go out with all her chinese school friends.

    However, my written mandarin is still desperately in need of help in spite of the regular private tuition my baby gives me.

    Therefore, when she writes her letters to me... they would all be in chinese, but with pin yin (romanized characters) in each one of the words so I could read them out as if she was speaking to me in person.

    These letters take a lot of time to write... and my baby does it all for me.

    Can you imagine what would happen if they made it compulsory for you to write pin yin under all your chinese words in your Bahasa Cina SPM exam.

    In spite of all that, people still do ask me

    "How can you be so sure that some bastard somewhere on the other side of the world is trying to steal your girlfriend?"

    And the truth is... I don't know for sure but I don't think about it. In high school I used to get very protective over my girlfriends but when you come to a certain age... when you're old (and fat), you just learn not to think about these things anymore.

    Maybe I'm just naive. But hey... lets find out what you guys think.

    This is a picture of my baby and a bunch of her college friends.
    My baby is the girl second from the left in the white top.

    Now take a good look at the her GUY friends... anyone particularly good looking that I should be worried about?

    Vote for it in the voting box on the side.


    • hey Boss Stewie,

      my first time leaving a comment. Would just like to say that i'm glad long distance works for some couples and good luck with the relationship. she sounds like a definite keeper ;)

      By Anonymous Ben L, at May 23, 2006 1:11 AM  

    • LENG!~

      By Anonymous lancebaby, at May 23, 2006 1:15 AM  

    • Boss.........

      all of them look like potential candidates. Yea, that means they have "Bastard" written all over their faces.

      hehehehe kidding

      dun angry la ah sou.

      Er...... let's see how the votes turn out ok?

      By Blogger Boss Lepton, at May 23, 2006 1:26 AM  

    • ben... thanks for the great advice. yes it does indeed work for some people.. never thought it would work for me actually.. but oh well :P hehehe

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 23, 2006 1:47 AM  

    • Lol
      I remember you saying these
      "As if your dick can reach that far"

      It doesnt matter anymore,you'll be back very soon.

      By Anonymous yothemans, at May 23, 2006 2:25 AM  

    • Hey, that's great to see things do workout for you! All it takes is a lil faith and trust and most of all.. just love.

      You're such a positive guy.. and it's good. =)

      By Blogger chocolat-latte', at May 23, 2006 4:06 AM  

    • LOL. If any one of them so happened to pop by your blog. you are dead meat man.

      But I'm glad that it worked out for you, despite that your dick can only reach Thailand. :P Well, good job and all the best from now. :)

      Leng, because your LDR is working. :P

      By Blogger Jason, at May 23, 2006 4:37 AM  

    • hey wish you all the best and keep the faith in you. it's not easy to find someone you really love and loves you equally much. cherish what you have till forever.

      Having gone through LDR i'm sure your love now stand even stronger.. *wink*

      By Anonymous Anonymous, at May 23, 2006 5:16 AM  

    • great, i used to have LDR too, but now everything is good now. He is back for good. hehe

      And wanna ask u, takan there are the onli guys(those college friends) around her... ??? there must be other friends ma. But you might not need to worry about it ler, after so long u both still stick up together, it definitely would not be a problem. Heheh.. happy ending hor ! Consider to work at KL la. kaka

      By Blogger Cely, at May 23, 2006 9:25 AM  

    • missing study already Boss??? eh heh.... ;)

      yea...i guess it can work out...

      Boss: u vain vain vain ;)

      she might have other picture u know ;)

      b4 i forget, LENG one ;)

      By Blogger Nash M.D., at May 23, 2006 11:59 AM  

    • Awwwwwwwww It was Soooo Sweeeeeet of U..Wish u all the best..Btw I agree that you are vain..Few of them looks better than u :p

      By Blogger KampungboyCitygal, at May 23, 2006 12:38 PM  

    • LENG!!! Sweetest post ive read in blogs!! GOOD LUCK to u both!! Prove to the world LDR works!! hahaha :P

      By Blogger minnieooi, at May 23, 2006 12:40 PM  

    • Leng because of the LDR and the statement about your dick reaching Thailand only hehe

      By Anonymous Nicholas, at May 23, 2006 12:58 PM  

    • aww thanks guys... yet .. I have a question...

      everyone here says that I have nothing to worry about and that i'm just being vain.. but... how come the poll says 50% say "YES I should be worried"

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 23, 2006 2:48 PM  

    • Hmmm. MOU. Coz this post didn't make me cry.

      By Anonymous Din, at May 23, 2006 3:12 PM  

    • Boss Stewie,

      If she's really your girl, she'll be your girl no matter what. Trust is very important and as long as you have trust, you have less to worry about. Just make sure you treat her well and don't give her (too much) grief. I was once in an LDR myself and I wish I could have seen it through to the stage where it became a 'domestic' relationship but it was just one step too far. Until today, there's still a tinge of regret and that is why I hope it will work for other people where I have messed things up.

      I say ignore the polls because if she really loves you, no one can take her away from you.

      By Anonymous Ben L, at May 23, 2006 5:49 PM  

    • LENG!!

      LRD really works! Experience it myself.. I have been back 3 years and just got married too...

      Wishing u all the best in your relationship Boss Stewie

      By Anonymous addee, at May 23, 2006 6:30 PM  

    • aww very encouraging words from all of you

      my baby will be so pleased when she reads this

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 23, 2006 6:50 PM  

    • lol boss stewie arrrrr...
      out of the blue blog about somethin sweet like this, not to say it isnt funny (it was funny when u opened the poll)
      but stewie write about somethin sweet sure get leng one hahaha :P
      yup yup LENG!!
      eh boss lepton, wats the score edi?
      blog about ur baby also boss lepton faster!! haha kiddin kiddin i like this post.

      oh p/s. even tho i think that u dont have to worry about the guys in ur picture and even tho i voted NO in ur poll, boss stewie? ur such a bastard for puttin their pics up JUST cause u know ur better lookin than them hahahahaa jahat betul! ;P

      By Anonymous andrew, at May 23, 2006 6:59 PM  

    • Boss Stewie such a sweet fella. No girl in their right mind will care for others when they got such a nice fella like you.

      Oh, on the 2nd thought...reach Thailand only? Oih! More effort laaa oih!

      By Anonymous Chapree Da Grande, at May 23, 2006 7:45 PM  

    • Leng! I am interested to know about your life style and your relationship as well. This is a meaningful post!

      In my opinion, isn't it hard to maintain long distance relationship Coz I've seen a lot of cases from my friends...

      But of course I wish you with her forever together!!!

      By Blogger こうゆうけん, at May 23, 2006 8:13 PM  

    • Very well done man :)

      There will be new challenges in domestic relationship, all the best!

      By Blogger Nicholas, at May 23, 2006 8:53 PM  

    • hehehe
      my baby just read all your encouraging words and she's happy :P aww... see what all of you have done

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 23, 2006 9:31 PM  

    • Boss Stewie, when are you getting married?

      By Anonymous Mr Cheah, at May 23, 2006 9:40 PM  

    • first time to leave a comment to u... soooooo sweet~~ just wish u 2 can live happily forever after...

      thanks for cheer me up all the time... thx~~


      By Anonymous Anonymous, at May 23, 2006 10:16 PM  

    • Hey... Isn't that...

      By Anonymous Lance, at May 23, 2006 10:18 PM  

    • stewie, when u get marry?? remember invite me. the last i went to PG was 29 Nov 1999. btw, is OTTO in london yet

      By Anonymous invisibleghost, at May 23, 2006 10:33 PM  

    • aww stewie is so sweeet :P
      your gf sure damn happy.

      stewie make another poll!!

      who tinks alex is hot ?

      lol. am i d oni one?

      By Blogger ChocoMonster, at May 23, 2006 11:05 PM  

    • b.stewie : that sui yue in the tux in da 1st pic is u har? got bond style sial lol!

      By Blogger Wingz, at May 23, 2006 11:24 PM  


      pls dun say anything about marriage!!!

      too soon.. tooo soon!!!

      invisible ... i don't know if otto in london yet wor.. she hasn't contacted me :P

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 23, 2006 11:36 PM  

    • Otto is stuck here in Msia working her ass off to pay for her 4 newly acquired pairs of shoes....

      But a promise is a promise is a promise... and I shall be there... I promise...

      Speaking of LDR, I think it works for me for many years. But somehow this year feels sort of funny and I miss Alex more than I normally do... so to London, it is.

      Will be in London before the 1st week of June. Would that be fine for the two bosses?

      BTW leng lah!

      By Blogger Otto, at May 24, 2006 2:17 AM  

    • 1st week of june??

      stewie going back already lo


      don't worry if stewie gonna get married, it's gonna be for no other reason than............ his baby got pregnant

      he'll freak out 1 i tell u

      And that might cost me a car........ dammit........

      By Blogger Boss Lepton, at May 24, 2006 2:40 AM  

    • Eh wait boss

      GUY friends???

      What if ah sou decided to come out of the closet and opt for a GIRL friend???

      woooo............. controversy

      By Blogger Boss Lepton, at May 24, 2006 4:19 AM  

    • I'd be the ah sou... heheh *evil grins*

      By Anonymous Lance, at May 24, 2006 4:55 AM  

    • no no.. she's definitely straight

      i leave uk on the 3rd of june

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 24, 2006 4:55 AM  

    • congrats!!

      By Blogger Yuen, at May 24, 2006 10:38 AM  

    • yalor. i forgot.
      LENG :D

      yalor uncle stewie.. when u getting married, eh?

      *wink wink*

      By Blogger ChocoMonster, at May 24, 2006 11:08 AM  

    • stewie, u back for good? can adapt to life here or not. damn shitty, u knw. n it's said next yr will be another recession. 1987, 1997, 2007. hard to get good job
      OTTO, u gg to london for holiday or working?

      By Anonymous invisibleghost, at May 24, 2006 1:00 PM  

    • lepton, why will that might cost u a car??

      By Anonymous invisibleghost, at May 24, 2006 1:02 PM  

    • kudos to you! a lot of ppl succumb to a LDR and good to know that you're not one of them!

      since u're comin back liao, i guess u dun have to stretch ur lil' brother across the map and yet not being able to reach M'sia. i believe it will get entertained so much more often than not ;)

      By Blogger smurfette, at May 24, 2006 3:18 PM  

    • Erm, go to the UK to write continue writing my book? I don't think my book can publish under Msian publishers lei....

      Wah bad timing liao... I think me arrive in London 2nd June...

      By Blogger Otto, at May 24, 2006 5:58 PM  

    • otto tsk tsk

      looks like we'll never get to meet

      invisible: cuz lepton promised me that if i get married before he does.. he will buy me a car... cuz lepton is rich .. yes he is.. yes he is

      thanks jess, yuen ai

      and bluey.. don't mention the M word!

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 24, 2006 6:04 PM  

    • hey, the guys standing behind your baby are really good looking woh.. haa.. but i can see how your gal loves you from where she willing to spent her time to write that letter to you.. how sweet !

      By Blogger Pianonee, at May 24, 2006 7:36 PM  

    • Oi, i'm not

      i'll lose a car coz if he gets married it's gonna be because his baby is pregnant

      and that would mean i got 1 god child already, LENG, and i say i wanna buy car for god child :D

      but that all depends whether he gets married 1st or william hahaha, my bet is on er........ william :D

      By Blogger Boss Lepton, at May 24, 2006 8:03 PM  

    • oh crap, now that reminds me

      what annuity do i have to buy now so I can afford a car with that in 20 years time?

      By Blogger Boss Lepton, at May 24, 2006 8:04 PM  

    • wah...veli the leng!

      By Blogger Kenny Lee, at May 24, 2006 9:34 PM  

    • wah...veli the leng!

      By Blogger Kenny Lee, at May 24, 2006 9:34 PM  

    • wow, go to london jz to write book, u an author? OTTO. wanna be like JK Rowling.

      btw, do the readers' leng or mou count? or only for the bosses??

      By Anonymous invisibleghost, at May 24, 2006 9:54 PM  

    • whoops. =x

      By Blogger ChocoMonster, at May 24, 2006 10:50 PM  

    • Boss Stewie: Not if we grab a bite on 3rd early in the day (assuming you fly late cos I usually fly late = cheaper) or I'd drive my little sports car all the way up to Penang in Oct/Nov (hols season nway) or something lah......

      Invisible: I wished I had JK Rowling's bank account... Hahahahahhaha... well I am not a writer but I aspire to be one... must write a book in my lifetime!! MUST!!

      By Blogger Otto, at May 24, 2006 10:53 PM  

    • ok otto.. i'm sure we can arrange something...

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 25, 2006 12:06 AM  

    • hey stewie.

      glad to see u havent lost your touch :) reading this blog still make me smile or laugh. i should come here more often.

      long distance never worked for me, i'm an insecure person so.... yeah.

      but the others were right, you are sweet. your gf is sweet.

      such a beautiful rship :) and it's great that ur so expressive.

      i wish you both love and passion in your relationship :)

      take care,

      By Blogger cass!, at May 25, 2006 12:39 AM  

    • hehee thanks very much cass.. how flattering

      By Blogger Boss Stewie, at May 25, 2006 7:32 AM  

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